Online Dating Etiquette: Following the “Rules”

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Most of us remember our parents’ “etiquette” rules. There were rules for the meal table, rules for our behavior with guests, rules for church, and “bigtime” rules when we were guests somewhere else. Many of what were considered good manners have gone by the wayside now, as we have all learned to “lighten up” and be more casual in our lifestyles. But this doesn’t mean all the rules of etiquette get thrown out the window.

This is especially true with online dating, in the age of messaging, video chats, and immediate communication and responses. If you are engaged in online dating, be mindful of how you present yourself and how you respond to those you chat with. Here are some helpful tips.

Be Honest About Yourself

Honesty is the foundation of any relationship. When you fill out your profile, don’t exaggerate who you are. And as you chat, answer all questions truthfully.

Respond to All Messages

Even if you are not interested, do respond within 24 hours of receiving a message. And always be kind. If you are not interested, say something like, “You seem like a great person, but I don’t believe we are a match.” 

On the other hand, if it is someone of interest, of course, reply in a positive way. 

Ignoring people who chat you up is rude.

Don’t Keep Sending Messages if There is No Response

You’ve made your interest known. If you do not get a response, leave it alone and move on. If they are interested but just don’t have time right now, they will eventually get back to you. When you keep messaging, you look a bit desperate.

Be Complimentary

Pay compliments early on – maybe their profile photo or some information they have shared on that profile. People always respond well to nice words.

Don’t Come on Too Strong Too Fast

Suppose you are engaged in a lesbian online chat. You have been single for too long and you really want a new relationship. You have found a good match and you want to speed things up. Whoa. You don’t know this girl and how she might respond to you being too aggressive. Start slowly and let her take more initiative in the beginning.

Do Ask Lots of Questions, but the Right Kind

Asking questions shows interest and that it’s not “all about you.” But be careful about asking too many personal or intimate questions early on. They will tell you what they want you to know all in good time. Let them take that initiative.

Politics and Religion are Messy Subjects

It’s not a good idea to discuss politics and religion early on. The only exception would be if either of these are deal breakers for you. But if you find incompatibility, be respectful when you break things off. Do not criticize or make fun of their beliefs.

Use Humor as Much as Possible

Especially when talking about your flaws, try to be funny. “No one has ever accused me of being a perfect housekeeper, and I don’t do windows. And sometimes, I don’t remember to put the cap back on the toothpaste.” And using plenty of emojis and GIFs keeps things light while you are still exploring each other.

Be Mindful of the Stage of Your Relationship

Proper etiquette really comes into play here. If you are in the early stage of an online relationship, you may be texting and video chatting and getting to know one another. You’re not yet in a relationship, so don’t start sending “good morning” or “good night” texts. That comes later.

It may be a bit rude and a turn-off if you ask for a phone number very early on. This should come after you’ve been chatting for a while – at least several days. This exchange takes you to a new relationship level.

Drip Out Your Accomplishments and Achievements

You may be really proud of all that you have achieved, your career, your education, your finances, etc. Even if they are totally true, let them drip out gradually. You may overwhelm someone who feels they cannot “measure up.” Plus, it’s just a bit rude to be so full of yourself.

Don’t Ghost, Breadcrumb, or Paperclip Someone

This is the height of disrespect and lack of common decency. If you are no longer interested in someone, or just using them as a backup, shame on you. Do the courteous thing and tell them, letting them down as easily as possible. 

Etiquette Today is Not Your Grandparents’ Etiquette, But It is Still Important

It’s easy to think that just because you are online rather than face-to-face, you can throw etiquette to the wind. There is never an excuse to be rude, inconsiderate, and/or unkind. The Golden Rule is universal and timeless.

Amie has a love for numbers and holds a master’s degree in finance. When she’s not playing with numbers or words or pottering in the garden, you can find her in the kitchen roasting her own coffee beans.

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